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“Let’s hope that the key conferences aren’t when she’s menstruating or something” – G. Gordon Liddy on Supreme Court Justice nominee Sonia Sotmayor

You spend your entire life scraping and scratching for every opportunity, a difficult task after your father suddenly dies when you are just nine years old and your mother is tasked with being the sole bread winner. You’re raised around junkies and gangs, but you focus on making yourself better, education is your key to getting out from under the poverty and challenges your family has endured, stay the course and focus on being your best. You earn a spot and scholarship to a college prep school, but the hard work is just beginning. In order to attend college, you can’t just be good, you have to be exceptional, because, in order to attend, you need a scholarship.

Your hard work is rewarded when you are designated valedictorian of your class and you enter Princeton on a full scholarship, followed by Yale Law School. Then many years later, you are nominated as a U.S. Supreme Court Judge, the highest court in the land. Your father would have been so proud. Your hard work has paid off. The nation is watching you, they are talking about your accomplishments. Lots of people are talking. All the sacrifices and the heartaches have brought you to this very point and then you hear:

“Let’s hope that the key conferences aren’t when she’s menstruating or something.”

Sotomayor is not the only accomplished woman that has been the subject of a sexist sound bite. On August 31st, the Women’s Campaign Forum, the Women’s Media Center and Political Parity launched “Name It, Change It,” a media campaign focused on putting the spotlight on sexism in the media. For years, women have politely ignored the host of comments about PMS, driving, blondes, butts and breasts and the GIRLFRIENDS are getting together and Naming Names!  We are getting down in the dirt; we’re going to spar on the mat of ignorance and come out the victor.  WE ARE NAMING NAMES and focusing the BIG BOLD LASER OF SHAME on the culprits.

The best part is, WE now have a Website.  That means we are organized!  And, we are organized on Facebook and Twitter AND we have a place to REPORT IT.

So get out there, become a fan of “Name It. Change It,” and join the cause.  Once we NAME IT, Change is inevitable.

I’ll get you started.  Here’s my list of sexist comments in the media:

“The reason she’s a U.S. senator, the reason she’s a candidate for president, the reason she may be a front-runner is her husband messed around. That’s how she got to be senator from New York. We keep forgetting it.  She didn’t win there on her merit.” – Chris Matthews on Hillary Clinton during the Presidential primaries in 2008.

“There’s also this issue that, on April 18, she gave birth to a baby with Down syndrome… The baby is just slightly more than 4 months old now. Children with Down syndrome require an awful lot of attention. The role of vice president, it seems to me, would take up an awful lot of her time, and it raises the issue of how much time will she have to dedicate to her newborn child?” – John Roberts on Sarah Palin’s VP nomination (on national television).

“If we get rid of the moon, women, whose menstrual cycles are governed by the moon, will not get PMS. They will stop bitching and whining.”GOVERNOR Arnold Schwarzenegger to Howard Stern during his radio show.

“Without ‘Fascistic Hatred, Malkin Is Just a ‘Mashed-Up Bag of Meat with Lipstick.” Keith Olbermann on Michele Malkin.

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"Let's hope that the key conferences aren't when she's menstruating or something" – G. Gordon Liddy on Supreme Court Justice nominee Sonia Sotmayor

You spend your entire life scraping and scratching for every opportunity, a difficult task after your father suddenly dies when you are just nine years old and your mother is tasked with being the sole bread winner. You’re raised around junkies and gangs, but you focus on making yourself better, education is your key to getting out from under the poverty and challenges your family has endured, stay the course and focus on being your best. You earn a spot and scholarship to a college prep school, but the hard work is just beginning. In order to attend college, you can’t just be good, you have to be exceptional, because, in order to attend, you need a scholarship.

Your hard work is rewarded when you are designated valedictorian of your class and you enter Princeton on a full scholarship, followed by Yale Law School. Then many years later, you are nominated as a U.S. Supreme Court Judge, the highest court in the land. Your father would have been so proud. Your hard work has paid off. The nation is watching you, they are talking about your accomplishments. Lots of people are talking. All the sacrifices and the heartaches have brought you to this very point and then you hear:

“Let’s hope that the key conferences aren’t when she’s menstruating or something.”

Sotomayor is not the only accomplished woman that has been the subject of a sexist sound bite. On August 31st, the Women’s Campaign Forum, the Women’s Media Center and Political Parity launched “Name It, Change It,” a media campaign focused on putting the spotlight on sexism in the media. For years, women have politely ignored the host of comments about PMS, driving, blondes, butts and breasts and the GIRLFRIENDS are getting together and Naming Names!  We are getting down in the dirt; we’re going to spar on the mat of ignorance and come out the victor.  WE ARE NAMING NAMES and focusing the BIG BOLD LASER OF SHAME on the culprits.

The best part is, WE now have a Website.  That means we are organized!  And, we are organized on Facebook and Twitter AND we have a place to REPORT IT.

So get out there, become a fan of “Name It. Change It,” and join the cause.  Once we NAME IT, Change is inevitable.

I’ll get you started.  Here’s my list of sexist comments in the media:

“The reason she’s a U.S. senator, the reason she’s a candidate for president, the reason she may be a front-runner is her husband messed around. That’s how she got to be senator from New York. We keep forgetting it.  She didn’t win there on her merit.” – Chris Matthews on Hillary Clinton during the Presidential primaries in 2008.

“There’s also this issue that, on April 18, she gave birth to a baby with Down syndrome… The baby is just slightly more than 4 months old now. Children with Down syndrome require an awful lot of attention. The role of vice president, it seems to me, would take up an awful lot of her time, and it raises the issue of how much time will she have to dedicate to her newborn child?” – John Roberts on Sarah Palin’s VP nomination (on national television).

“If we get rid of the moon, women, whose menstrual cycles are governed by the moon, will not get PMS. They will stop bitching and whining.”GOVERNOR Arnold Schwarzenegger to Howard Stern during his radio show.

“Without ‘Fascistic Hatred, Malkin Is Just a ‘Mashed-Up Bag of Meat with Lipstick.” Keith Olbermann on Michele Malkin.

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MOM ALERT: DAUGHTERS LACK ROLE MODELS

My daughter’s sixth grade class participates in an annual tradition in her school called “The Wax Museum.”  The children choose a person/character they would like to represent, and then dress up during a special day in which the entire school participates.  My daughter’s first choice was Massie, the Queen Bee of a prep school in the Clique book series by Lisi Harrison.  Then she decided perhaps Dawn Wells, Mary Anne from Gilligan’s Island was a better choice until she Googled her and learned about her reckless driving arrest, et al.

“What about Sandra Day O’Connor, first woman on the U.S. Supreme Court?” I asked.

“No.”

“Mother Teresa?”

“NO!”

“Susan B. Anthony?  You can be handcuffed and be her when she tried to vote.”

“No.”

“Helen Keller?”

“No.”

“Kathrine Switzer, the first women to register and run in the all male Boston Marathon in 1967?  You can wear a jogging suit with your number half way ripped off like it was on the day she ran when the race director tried to pull it off.

“No.”

“Margaret Thatcher?  You can use your British accent.”

“No.  Tell me some women around today,” she asked.

“Hilary Clinton?”

What was so distressing is watching her dejected face each time I suggested a great woman.  Clearly, no feeling of pride for what women endured and eventually overcame.  Finally, I convinced her that Jackie Kennedy was a grand choice, “She redecorated the White House; she was lovely and glamorous; and she became a book editor after her husband died.”

When I polled her friends on their choices, I was told – Laura Ingalls (young life), Laura Ingalls Wilder (older), Queen Elizabeth, I don’t know, JK Rowling, Snape (male character in Rowling’s Harry Potter series – don’t ask), and Annie Oakley.   That’s the best we’ve got for our girls, two girls sharing Laura Ingalls Wilder?  She’s a great choice, but where are the contemporary role models?

The Washington Post printed an article in February of this year suggesting great movies for girls with positive role models – A League of Their Own (not bad), Miss Congeniality (huh?), Fly Away Home and Whale Rider. Really? That’s the best we have to offer our girls?

Not surprisingly, kids (including mine) watch far too much television.  This article suggests, “One report indicates that for girls ages 12 – 17 years old, 3 out of 4 of their favorite television shows were reality TV shows.”

I think the only clear choice for us moms is to torture our children with one story a week about a woman who did the unthinkable, solved the unsolvable, reached the unreachable and put her stake into the big mountain of I DID IT!

And maybe, just maybe they will understand what it means to really want something so badly that attaining it may just diminish their personal bank of character, will and reputation. Let’s hope that our girls will some day learn that the reward for of one’s hard work is more than money. Daughters of the 21st Century are going to be shocked to find that some things just can’t bought, instead the price is much higher and often much more difficult to spend.

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Smoking: Breaking Down Marriages and Sullying Reputations

I’ve always felt that anti-smoking advocates either were effective marketers, or terrific lobbyists.  It is amazing to me how smoking has gone from accepted 20 years ago to contemptible today.  Consider the recent news from the Gaza Strip where, according to the Associated Press, plain clothes Hamas security officers served restaurant owners with a ban, taking women’s ability to smoke water pipes in cafes away.

WHEN WILL IT STOP!  Now what do women have in the middle east that they can enjoy?  I’ll bet the water pipe was the final freedom.  The reason for the ban is that it, “destroys marriages and sullies the image of the Palestinian people.”

It is so horrible that they are only going to allow men to smoke the water pipes not the women.  It’s just too awful.

“While Muslim law does not technically ban women from smoking the traditional tobacco-infused pipes, tradition frowns upon the habit. Hamas frequently mixes its strict interpretation of Islamic law with conservative Gaza tradition, and over the weekend, the two dovetailed to produce the smoking ban.”

“”It is inappropriate for a woman to sit cross-legged and smoke in public. It harms the image of our people,” Ihab Ghussein, Hamas interior ministry spokesman, said in a statement released Sunday.”

WHAT IF THEY SIT WITH CROSSED KNEES?  HOW ABOUT NO CROSSINGS AT ALL.

“Many women who smoke in public were divorced when their husbands saw them, or found out about them,” said Hamas police spokesman, Ayman Batneiji, without substantiating his claim.

Source: AP

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In the “What were they Thinking” category

Pope Benedict XVI

The Vatican just added a NEW RULE to Canon Law with penalties for – “ordaining women priests” — subject to the same procedures and punishments as sex abuse. Monsignor Charles Scicluna, the Vatican’s sex crimes prosecutor, defended the inclusion of sex abuse and the ordination of women in the same document.

“An attempted ordination of a woman is grave, but on another level,” he said. “It is a wound. It is an attempt against the Catholic faith on the sacrament of holy orders [the priesthood]. So they are grave but on different levels.”

Hmmm…the comments sound a little 12th Century, I think.  Don’t these guys have mothers!

(full disclosure, I was raised Catholic).

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In the "What were they Thinking" category

Pope Benedict XVI

The Vatican just added a NEW RULE to Canon Law with penalties for – “ordaining women priests” — subject to the same procedures and punishments as sex abuse. Monsignor Charles Scicluna, the Vatican’s sex crimes prosecutor, defended the inclusion of sex abuse and the ordination of women in the same document.

“An attempted ordination of a woman is grave, but on another level,” he said. “It is a wound. It is an attempt against the Catholic faith on the sacrament of holy orders [the priesthood]. So they are grave but on different levels.”

Hmmm…the comments sound a little 12th Century, I think.  Don’t these guys have mothers!

(full disclosure, I was raised Catholic).

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